Most people in our society follow certain common-sense rules, which today are necessary to get along with others. These rules of behavior are called ‘etiquette‘ or simply good manners. ([Etiquette, French, was a note of instructions given to someone invited to a royal reception.])
Most experts will tell you that teaching good manners and respectful behavior all starts at home. Parents need to show their children how good manners are appropriate and should be followed. Manners must be learned at an early age of the child’s development. Slowly as the youth grows older, he or she will find it easier to learn good manners if the other members of the family, especially parents, or teachers in schools as they treat one another politely and fairly.
Parents Teaching Good Manners: A lesson that many parents forget, is that they need to model what they want from their children. In other words, parents need to be watchful in what they say and do with each other in front of their children. Most children learn by imitating what they see. Parents need to explain to their children what is expected of them concerning good manners, however if the parent is not reinforcing it with good manners themselves, the effort is useless. The children should be taught that you don’t have to shout to be heard and they shouldn’t interrupt others whilst they are talking. The adults should praise and give affection in return for good manners. By showing your child good manners, you reinforce the expectations you have for your children.
4 Little Tips!
• Say please and thank you everyday.
• Praise your children liberally when they’re polite.
• Correct them when they’re not.
• Give constant reminders to say please and thank you.
Teaching Good Core Values for Good Manners:
Just explaining to your child and modeling that good manners behavior may not be successful. A child will need to have some core values explained to them so that good manners make sense. Some core values to focus on would be respect, honesty, and consideration. These three core values that good manners are based on. You can teach a child what to say such as ‘Thank you’ and ‘Yes, please’ but they are just words unless you have explained to them why they are important. When your child is well mannered, they are more likely to be liked by others. Parents of other children will enjoy your child around their children. Teachers will make sure that your child is successful in school. Your child will begin to develop a higher level of self-confidence with the positive responses they get back from their good manners.
Invest the time with your child to teach them not only the verbal good manners of ‘thank you’ and ‘please’ but also other etiquettes. The simple rule is to treat people kindly and courteously – remembering to behave as you would like others to behave towards you…